Do you have those friends that seem to know when you need a pick-me-up even if they're hundreds of miles away? Those are my favorite types of people. It makes my day when someone from school shoots me a text checking in or a long-winded squeaky voice snapchat video updating me on their day. (A personal favorite form of communication for my friend group)
Going to school away from home means making friends from across the country and leaving them periodically throughout the year. It also means people eventually graduate and move away. But the best kinds of people are those who don't dwell on that and still check in every now and then.
When I left for college my freshman year, I was confident that I would stay close with all of my high school best friends. Needless to say, that didn't happen. I keep in touch with many of them but am only close with a couple now, three years later. At first, I was upset by this and saddened that I was losing friends from that part of my life, but as I went through more and more of college, I realized that the people I should want to be friends with are the ones who want to be your friend. That probably makes no sense, so I'll explain it more. In college, there is so much going on all the time. There seems to be constant "drama" about something, i.e. classes, people's relationships, family, creating plans etc. It takes a lot of energy to get through it all and it can be exhausting.
I think it's important to have friends that don't suck more energy from you. They should motivate you and push you to do your best, without requiring a lot from you. Of course, you should be doing the same for them, motivating them and checking in to make sure they're doing okay.
These are the types of people you should want to be friends with, and the type of friend I strive to be. It can be difficult to remember to check in with them when your life is going at 100 miles a minute, but I try and remember how happy I was when they text me and do the same for them. During these especially unknown times in our lives with grad school, moving, applying for jobs and more, it's so important to have a group of friends that support you.
Going to school away from home means making friends from across the country and leaving them periodically throughout the year. It also means people eventually graduate and move away. But the best kinds of people are those who don't dwell on that and still check in every now and then.
When I left for college my freshman year, I was confident that I would stay close with all of my high school best friends. Needless to say, that didn't happen. I keep in touch with many of them but am only close with a couple now, three years later. At first, I was upset by this and saddened that I was losing friends from that part of my life, but as I went through more and more of college, I realized that the people I should want to be friends with are the ones who want to be your friend. That probably makes no sense, so I'll explain it more. In college, there is so much going on all the time. There seems to be constant "drama" about something, i.e. classes, people's relationships, family, creating plans etc. It takes a lot of energy to get through it all and it can be exhausting.
I think it's important to have friends that don't suck more energy from you. They should motivate you and push you to do your best, without requiring a lot from you. Of course, you should be doing the same for them, motivating them and checking in to make sure they're doing okay.
These are the types of people you should want to be friends with, and the type of friend I strive to be. It can be difficult to remember to check in with them when your life is going at 100 miles a minute, but I try and remember how happy I was when they text me and do the same for them. During these especially unknown times in our lives with grad school, moving, applying for jobs and more, it's so important to have a group of friends that support you.
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